I have to type this quickly otherwise it will just be another thought I have that I feel compelled to share but then never do. Taylor and I have had some major power struggles lately which usually end with me being extremely frustrated and defeated and her enduring many time-outs, spankings, yellings, and the like. It's not uncommon for this to revolve around a nap time.
I have been trying to think of what I'm doing wrong, what I could try next, etc. I have been praying about this and it finally occurred to me that when I tell her that she should be "loving" to her friends, toys, and us, I should be doing the same...duh! I know.
Yesterday was an especially bad nap time that I won't even go into detail about. Today, after about 10 min. she came out complaining her nose hurt. Then proceeded to go back and forth between her room and me with various things to tell me. All the while I was repeating in my nicest mommy voice, "Get back in bed, please." Finally, I took her hand to take her back to bed and it was like she was possessed. She just started screaching all the way to her room and into her bed and then kept trying to get off her bed. Each time I just put her back without saying anything. The last time I picked her up I put her in my lap and hugged her and she calmed down immediately. I sat there in her bed and rocked her until she fell asleep and then was overcome by how long its been since I've done this. I sat there looking at her, remembering her features and thinking how lucky she is to have those gorgeous eyelashes!
I just want to say as a reminder to myself and to all my mommy friends that as frustrated as we get with them (especially as two year olds!), they just need to be loved.